Slapped in the face by the Liberal Dude friend.

Recently I was called a feminazi.

No, not by an anonymous commenter over the internet. Not by a bonehead frat boy wearing boating shoes and a pastel golfing shirt. Not even by a person who voted for McCain.

I was insulted by a person I call a friend.

And no, I wasn't standing on my soapbox preaching about the evils of the patriarchy. *I* didn't bring up anything related to feminism, actually. (And these things shouldn't warrant name-calling anyway.)

Friend X said, a girl who wears a low-cut shirt deserves to be checked out. In the past I have been guilty of not calling out friends on similar bullshit, but not this time. With an incredulous snort, I said um, no they don't, and what you just suggested is pretty messed up.

Bam. Feminazi.

Dear White Liberal Dude who claims to be my "friend:"

Don't ever fucking call me a feminazi. EVER. Even if I burn my bra right in front of you. Even if I do step up on my soapbox. I have every right to voice my opinion and do not deserve to be stigmatized or dismissed just because you're uncomfortable.

Listen carefully, Liberal Dude. If you make some bullshit claim about women deserving to be objectified, be sure that I'm going to call out your sexist disgusting ass. I'm going to tell you that no person deserves to be degraded, especially based on their clothing choices. A boob shirt is not an invitation to play Patriarchy and cast yourself as the all-powerful Dude gazing upon a subordinate being with breasts. Guess what. She does not exist solely for your sexual pleasure. She does not show her cleavage intent on becoming one of your fantasies. And she sure as hell doesn't deserve it.

And by the way, you do not have the god-given right to deny my agency or mock me. You are a big fucking asshole if you think your misguided assertions are above my opinions, which, by the way, happen to be based on real-life experience and years of feminist thought. You do not have the right to silence me or suggest that I should be ridiculed. If you cannot bear to open your mind or even simply refrain from insulting me, then do yourself a favor and shut the fuck up. Because next time, I won't be so nice.